Thursday, April 5th, 2012
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3:21 pm - A stronger back
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I don't know if anyone is going to be around and available, but I could use some help this Saturday (4/7) moving some furniture and carrying some wood.
I injured my back a couple months ago and it is not yet where I need it to be to carryout (or literally carry) the projects that I need to work on this weekend.
Let me know if you'd like to help. I can at least offer lunch or dinner.
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Saturday, December 25th, 2010
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7:21 am
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Sunday, September 26th, 2010
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10:08 pm - Quick Update
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Been rather busy the last few weeks. I can't seem to figure out what happened to September, so I figure I'll just jump forward to October and work things out from there.
Internship = All Done
Counseling Practice = Starting in October (Seriously, the shingle officially gets hung in October so if you would like to pass along that information to anyone and everyone I would certainly be glad of the help. I'll make a more official anoucement next week, but this way you know it's coming.)
Writing = Moving along
Relationships = Good and Complicated (Not necessarily in that order)
Free Time = Some reading, some writing, working on getting the business set up, the occational concert (great Vixy and Tony show last night btw) and spending time seeing the people I've missed these last couple of years.
More to come in the near future. Stay tuned.
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Monday, March 1st, 2010
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11:15 am - I Need Two Artists
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Do you know Artists that do Commissions?
I have two requests:
1) I'm looking for an artist to do an ensemble drawing of anthropomorphic animals in Samurai Armor. I don't have personal contact with any Furry Artists and thought that someone here might. I'm not looking for something more than an inked drawing in this case. Full color is not required. However I do have specific animals in mind as representations for specific people and I would like to be able to give this image as gifts to them. My time and resources are somewhat limited on this project.
2) I am looking for an Artist (preferably in the Seattle area) who can do anatomical drawings, specifically of genitalia, but also of whole naked people. I'm working initially on a paper discussing the difference between sex and gender (and thereby the variations in sex and gender) and would like to have some black and white anatomical drawings as part of that paper. Longer term I'm looking at doing possibly teaching this discussion as a class and would like to have other drawings made for that as well. I have more time on this project, but again my resources are still limited (I'm a grad student after all).
I you know of anyone, or know of anyone who might know of someone, who might like or be interestedin one of these projects, please let me know.
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Monday, February 22nd, 2010
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10:55 am - Quotes
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Every so often, my brain comes up with a quote for something. Somtimes it is about what's going on in my life. Sometimes it is about something going on in someone else's life. And sometimes it just pops in for no understandable reason.
I usualy think, "I should write that down" when it happens and rarely am I able to before the thought drifts back into the ether wense it came. However, a while back I started keeping a file what at work. Here are those quotes:
"It’s about taking a stand; about knowing in the deep and secret place within yourself that you are right. It’s not about what you say, or even about how you say it. What matters is that you stand up and say it."
"Should the shell of mood be so fragile as to be cracked by the unlooked for tones of the nightingale."
"If I have known hardship it is naught compared to the pain found along the road to Ebinshire."
"When long I look for any hope to see, I find only an insubstantial reflection, my face staring back at me."
"In the darkest place of the heart, a little voice asks, “Am I wanted?”, and then spends all its time listening to the echo."
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Friday, February 19th, 2010
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3:52 pm - Quick
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I need a name for my future counseling business.
I'm drawing a blank right now. Any suggestions?
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Wednesday, November 18th, 2009
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9:31 am - Help Needed.
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I need someone with good handwriting who would be able to assist me with creating a therapy game.
When: this afternoon or evening
I am essentially creating a custom card game designed to help elicit emotional response. I am going to get blank flash cards and write on the back. I can do black printing myself if necessary, but would prefer it look a little nicer (my handwriting is not good).
I need to have it done this evening, along with several other things, so if you would be free and interested in helping out this grad student, please let me know.
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Monday, November 9th, 2009
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7:33 am - Back from Classes
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I survived another Mod at grad school.
My pants are very bankrupt. Please let me know if anything important or interesting has gone on with you this last week. I've been a little out of touch.
It was a great week and I learned a lot. The trick now is to hold on to a that learning long enough to integrate it into my self (and get my next set of paper's written).
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Friday, October 23rd, 2009
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6:44 am - An interesting video
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Found from on a locked post - so no credit to the person who posted, but thanks for sharing this.
What would you do?
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Thursday, October 22nd, 2009
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2:29 pm - Secrecy and Confidentiality
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I haven’t posted in a while and have had lots going on in my head as of late. I’ve spent the last week in training at my internship site, working my internship, and working my other job. While this leaves very little time for much of anything (including eating and sleeping), it does bring up a lot of interesting topics.
Today’s topic is the difference between Secrecy and Confidentiality (my take - as informed by my current training with a heavy influence from system counseling theory):
A secret is something that is kept hidden. It may be shared by a single person or by many people, but the principle concept behind it is that it is not supposed to be shared or even known about. There is often shame around the holding of a secret and it becomes a burden for those that hold it because it weakens the connections between the people who know and the people who don’t know what it is or even that it exists. Thus can there also be resentment and anger from people who aren’t in the know, even if they don’t know that the secret even exists.
A confidence is something that is kept safe. While it is not supposed to be shared, it is supposed to be known. It is a request for respect from those it is not shared with and a request for responsibility for those that hold it. The principle difference is that the holding of a confidence can be discussed openly with other. One may not share was is being held, but there is no shame involved. There may still be resentment or anger from others, but there is also the opportunity for mutual respect and understanding.
I’ve been struggling for a while to figure out the difference between these two things. I’ve come to the conclusion that while there are similarities, they are in no way equal to each other.
Secrets to me are about deception and shame.
Confidentialities to me are about respect and mutual understanding.
I would like to write more, but am running out of time.
Feel free to disagree or add your own thoughts in the comments.
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Wednesday, October 7th, 2009
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9:51 am - Stuff
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1) Does anyone have a lockable file cabinet that they are not using and would like to donate to grad student who suddenly finds themselves needing to keep secure files (that would be me).
2) It looks like I may be getting a second car. Looking for something reliable and cheap in the new or semi-used category. Does anyone have any thoughts or suggestions?
I'm currently looking at the Smart Cars if anyone has an opinion on those.
3) Life is really good right now. It is also really hectic at the moment and will be for some time to come. Please be patient with me if you are waiting for a response back from me on anything. I'm trying, but still working through a backlog.
Also, if there is something I need to know or a question you have to ask, please send me email. LJ falls lower down on the priority list most days.
Lot's of living to do. More updates as time allows.
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9:31 am - In Transition
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My life is in transition.
I am just starting my second year of Grad School.
After a long summer, I am moving back toward a place of health, mentally and physically.
I am starting a 9 month long internship as part of the Family Preservation Service.
I am moving from full-time work to part-time work.
After a lifetime of following the needs and wants of others, I am learning to place the boundaries I need without cutting off from the people that I care about.
After decades of hiding, I am learning what it means to live with my power without taking it away from someone else and to move with authority without being an authority.
After many years of just getting by, I am learning to live an authentic life.
My life is in transition…
How about yours?
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Wednesday, September 16th, 2009
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7:26 am - In the News
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An Interesting Newsweek Article on death and end of life care:
The Case for Killing Granny
It talks about a lot of things around the debate for how to handle end of life care and has a good overview of the issues.
It also takes a good look at how the cost of end of life care is the "elephant in the room" in the health care debate. Many on the far right have used it as a way to scare people. In my opinion, many people are already scared and it's just tapping into that fear for political gain (not that such as ever been done before {sarcasm})
I also heard on NPR this morning about churches, synagogues, and mosques changing their ceremonies to reduce exposer to pathogens like the swine flu during a pandemic. This includes not shaking hands or embracing during service, not sharing wine or food, not gathering to closely in communal space, and forgoing the use use of holywater or ritual cleansing.
My first thought when hearing it was to wonder about the loss of faith, but after reading the above article I began to think about it more systemically.
( More systemic thoughtsCollapse )
Debate with me or each other as you like.
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Thursday, September 3rd, 2009
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12:44 pm - LJ Brain Trust
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Does anyone know a good naturopath in the Bellevue/Redmond Area?
Bonus points if they deal with GI issues or IBS issues.
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Tuesday, June 30th, 2009
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7:51 am - Question:
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Monday, June 15th, 2009
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1:40 pm - Gender Questions
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How does one define what is masculine or feminine?
Are there parts of those terms that are inherent in our bodies or are they entirely a construction of our culture?
Are they descriptors of behavior or descriptors of identity?
These are just some of the questions floating around inside my head right now.
I recently worked with a study that attempted to define a person’s gender, masculine or feminine. It was 18 questions long and 6 of them were about sexual preference. I did not find the questions good predictors of my gender and I thought, wouldn't really be a good predictor of most peoples gender.
This being me I now cannot let go of the question, “What would be a good survey to help show a person’s gender?” What questions would it ask? How well would those questions correlate to self identity? How many people have the self-awareness necessary to correlate with self identity? How to define gender on something other than a line of masculine/feminine dichotomy?
There is also the question of is it a good question to pursue? Despite the best efforts of many researchers, such scales tend to be taken out of context and used poorly. At the same time, it is difficult to talk about gender when people lack a way to conceptualize it in a mainstream/formalized sort of way.
I’m coming to think that it I want to be able to pursue research into gender identity that I am going to need a better instrument for being able to compare the gender of people in the study. Which leaves me to create such an instrument.
Does anyone here want to help?
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Monday, June 8th, 2009
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6:56 am - Quick Update
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- Back from School
- Feeling a bit better, though still not tip-top
- Passed my final exam
- Had a great experience at school this weekend (though a lot of good-byes)
- At work - (don't want to be at work)
- Moving on into the Summer with lots of plans and probably not enough time to get all of them done.
- Mostly just need to get through today first.
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Wednesday, May 20th, 2009
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6:47 am - Something like a real post:
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(In easily digestible bites)
- 2 weeks from today I’ll be getting ready to take my final
o I’ve got a lot of Studying to do between now and then
- Had a good last weekend: shooting shotguns, hiking on Oyster Mountain, and studying for my final (not all at the same time)
o Am still a little sore from my good weekend – need to do more hiking.
- Work is still stressy, but not as bad as some others
o Stressy work leads to upset stomach. Need new work.
- Am already looking forward to the long weekend
o I have a 10 page paper to write and some 300 pages of notes to review.
o Am also hoping to go out to see a movie.
o Am looking forward to study group
- The field of psychology needs more models mapped in 4 dimensions
- Still do not have an internship for next semester. Still need one.
o Really wish that was resolved so I could plan my summer better.
o Have put in a few calls and will see if anything turns up.
- Want to do more gaming and do not have enough time right now – le sigh.
- I am still blessed with a wonderful wife, partner, and girlfriends who I don’t get enough time with, but who still remind me of what’s important in this crazy thing I call my life.
o They also help keep me as close to sane as possible – you should thank them.
There are many other things that I could say, but that’s about all I’ve got time for.
Hope things are well in your corner of reality.
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Saturday, May 16th, 2009
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7:49 am - Quiz Stuff - Becasue you would want a real post would you?
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Thursday, May 14th, 2009
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6:42 am - Quote for Yesterday
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I love working with Psychological Models.
I hate when Psychological Models show up at work.
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